Years ago, Thom and I went to a seminar to hear “relationship guru” Barbara De Angelis give a lecture.  How did we know she was a relationship guru?  She had written a book, was doing the lecture circuit and told everyone right up front that she was an expert because she had gone through so many breakups and knew what didn’t work.  Sorry?  Even at the time Thom and I both knew that we didn’t want to take marriage advice from someone who wasn’t living the ideal experience.  De Angelis may have discovered what doesn’t work, but she was only guessing at what did.  This week, after celebrating 41 years of marriage with a man I love and appreciate more each and every year, I’ve put down a few thoughts that might be helpful to others.  And it never ever hurts to remind ourselves what we are grateful for in our lives. [Read more…]